The following entry is based off of Oprah.com. Enjoy! And don’t forget to email Pamela your questions on public speaking or otherwise at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Oprah.com published an interesting article on recognizing your talents. It suggests often times we deflect compliments (you’re so creative, you’re so compassionate, you’re very well-spoken, etc.), assuming these qualities “must come easily to everyone.” Being humble can be viewed as a great personality trait, but let’s not forget about recognizing what makes “me”, “me.”
So! Here are some suggestions according to the article:
1. Ask your friend to name three of your strengths.
2. Tell your friend your top passion. Then have your friend tell an imaginary story of your life, based on this passion and your strengths. For instance, “You’re organized, creative, and friendly, and your passion is baking. So, you run a bakery where customers can buy cupcakes with little icing portraits of themselves.”
3. Take a minute to imagine this fantasy as your real life. Tell your friend what appeals to you (“Making cupcakes with artistic frosting would be awesome!”) and what makes you cringe (“I’d never start my own business — the thought of bookkeeping gives me hives”)
4. Now your friend revises the story based on your feedback. (“Okay, you organize monthly bake sales at the local Boys & Girls Club. Kids buy the cupcakes and paint their own portraits.”)
5. Keep going back and forth until the story feels right. This may take three or 13 rounds — there’s no need to rush. Your friend will likely suggest unexpected scenarios. Don’t let knee-jerk objections (“That would cost too much!” “When would I have time?”) shape your feedback. This is about crafting a scenario tailored to your strengths.
6. Stop when the story feels completely satisfying. You’ve just shaped your passion into a goal and defined what you do and don’t want from your calling.
Being confident and believing in your abilities will take your day-to-day life and natural skills to the next level.